L.O.S (Loss Of Signal)

[AndrewP]

I had the great privilege of knowing the legendary Jack3Beans both on and off this board. He was a truly great man and a wise friend. He once shared with me his belief that, unless you've done something extreme to burn the bridge, "....[T]hey always try to come back. When they do, you may not want them anymore, but they always try to come back". He also shared with me that, when they start piecing their lives back together again, they save the relationships and people that mean the most to them for last.

"The mystery of the missing folder" has been solved. Since this whole chain of events started as one of the last contacts I had with my XW, if there was ever a doubt in my mind as to whether I had burned the bridge or not, it shows me definitively that, in her eyes, I had not.

I'm very much looking forward to testing my good friend's theory.

Jack was a great help to me too in a very dark time and did encourage my own optimism about things turning around for me too.

Do they turn around and try to come back? I'm certainly not expecting that in my own case even though I left that door open for far longer than perhaps I should have. There wasn't the acrimony in my situation that there is in many. What anger I felt wasn't spent on blasting her and her anger just rolled off my back.

As far as I can know, my xW has settled into her new life and I'm just someone she used to know. At the time I felt that she was following the MLC playbook right down to getting the obligatory tattoo. Your own case may be different - I can't judge that - and your ex may indeed turn around. I'm glad to see though that you are out there living your life and not putting it on hold for something that may never happen and that perhaps even if the chance of it comes up, you and she may have evolved into people that aren't compatible.

One thing that Jack told me that still sticks to this day was to disregard the odds. Even a 1 in a 1000 chance has a 1 in it.