I learned to filter messages like this: [quote] That’s fine. I know we didn’t want to. But that was before you stopped all communication.[/quote
to
Her: "That's fine".
As you go forward, you can take care of all the business aspects through email (and most likely lawyers-- The lawyers will do all the "negotiations" in your behalf for billable hours)
If my ex sent me that message, someplace in the future I would send this to her: Text her "Sent you an Email" Email starts "To keep the communication open and the process moving forward......"
A wise DBER from the past, Coach, called this "reverse babble".
Maybe in your case, you could state that you looked into several mediators that you could use to help settle things that the two of you cant come to agreement on. You should spply at least thee names and numbers and let her pick one. If you don't do this the lawyers will do this for billable hours. Then their freind the mediator also gets in on the action.
I wish you well
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
