Hey KitCat! Sorry you’ve had a crap time and hit your head. And I hope the 2x4’s below don’t come across as harsh, but they are sent from a place of care.
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I'm not sure why you are stonewalling me but I guess it doesn't matter does it
If an ex texted me a fishing/attention seeking bait like this, I’d be roughly a ba-jillion times less likely to respond to any future messages.
YEP... I did get a response... and then he went dark. I hear what you are saying. I was not dealing with a moment ((actually several days)) of frustration very well. That's on me.
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But, his dismissive avoidance triggers the anxious person in me...
Sounds like you’re trying to make your issue with avoidance/people pleasing his fault.
No... not making my anxious attachment issues his fault. Just recognizing my response is a knee jerk reaction to his behavior. I'm working on it.
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I did not want to see him so I lied and said "no".
Why? How about “Yes I’m home, but I don’t want to see you. Just leave it in the mail box.”
YES!!! That's a million times better! I panicked??? Remember I had just hit my head really bad...
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Anyway, I texted pilot that today totally sucked and that I had fallen off a ladder, etc.
GUESS WHAT??? Nothing but crickets.
You seem to have an insatiable need for validation. If pilot guy is a douche, why do you want him to care so much? Maybe that’s something that needs to be explored further.
If you keep sticking your hand in a fire, you’ll keep getting hurt.
LH is correct. Detach, detach, detach!
You're right that was attention seeking. He's also an EMT. I thought at least there might have been a little help there.
