Totally, good advice. I really don't think anything physically happened between them. Oh, the thought has crossed my mind. But H has made that mistake before. And he made such a big deal about me asking him at one point if he had--so he could tell me (very proudly) that nothing had happened.

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H's constant fear that roommate will tell you something that will drive you away is very curious.



This is actually typical of H's personality, but yes, I do find it odd, as well. He keeps explaining it that she has been known to make up similar stuff to get back at people. He overheard her on the phone one day, telling the ex-gf of a male friend of hers that she and the male friend had done all of the sexual stuff together. H knew it was a lie, since he had been with her all day the day she mentioned.

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So far you've told him that it doesn't matter what she tells you because you know it's not true so you're not worried. IF you are really OK with whatever might have happened perhaps you should let him know that no matter what she tells you, true or not, that's in the past. There is no point re-living the past because it's over. You need to live in the NOW and that means moving forward with a new R that buries the past! This way, no matter the reason for his fear (real or imagined) he knows that he doesn't have to fer your reaction. But you have to really be OK with it - and you have to mean it!




You know, I've thought through all of this, but maybe I haven't made that clear to him. I'm not going to bring up the subject again, but if he does, I think I'll make it a point to make sure he knows this.

In all honesty, it would hurt me to find out something happened (and I have my suspicions) but I would be all right eventually. My new mantra is that our old R is dead, this one is new, so the past is irrelevent. Anything before we reconciled this time doesn't matter to me.

H just called me, asking to bring his SP... He asked if I had any spare money, thought it would be fun to buy a second SP for me, so we could get MarioKart and link them together. LOL We used to play all the time on the N64. (We both love video games.)

Thanks for stopping by, I hope your day is going better.

[color:"purple"]Nevanna[/color]