Thanks so much for coming by to post to me - I've needed the support - it's been really hard.
H's constant fear that roommate will tell you something that will drive you away is very curious. It's as if he's trying to test the waters. Do you think it's possible that something physical DID happen between them? And if so, does it matter? How would you handle it?
So far you've told him that it doesn't matter what she tells you because you know it's not true so you're not worried. IF you are really OK with whatever might have happened perhaps you should let him know that no matter what she tells you, true or not, that's in the past. There is no point re-living the past because it's over. You need to live in the NOW and that means moving forward with a new R that buries the past! This way, no matter the reason for his fear (real or imagined) he knows that he doesn't have to fer your reaction. But you have to really be OK with it - and you have to mean it!
Sounds like you are definitely heading in the right direction. Keep it up! Totally
