KitCat,

At this point you know what you're getting in both ExH and Pilot. Don't expect them to change. Personally I'd drop them both, focus on yourself, and only give energy to those genuinely interested in you. Just my $0.02.

Me:39 Ex-W:37
M:7 T: 9
S:6 D:3
BD/IHS/Confirm EA/PA: Feb '20
OM1 affair ends: May '20
W/OM2 & moves out: June-July '20
W files for D: Jul20
OM2 confirmed: 9/2020
Divorced: May '21