I hear you Ginger!!! I was referring to his past behavior and was expecting more of the same... given how the best predictor of future behavior is past behavior... blah blah blah.

I reached out with an olive branch mid-week.... SILENCE. I finally just got into my "I" statements. I'm trying to get out of my own head and stop expecting people to know how I feel or what I want... so into the "I feel like you don't like me when I don't hear from you for several days... followed up with I like X about him, giving him some appreciation" ANY psychologist would have thrown amazing kudos to the statement giving my feelings voice without being defensive or critical. GO ME!!!

I know that he is dismissive avoidant... and its imperative to give a lot of space after something like that... and while I've really worked on my issues with patience... frack I still crack.

After another day I texted him "I'm not sure why you are stonewalling me but I guess it doesn't matter does it" He finally responded that "its been a shitshow all week, he's 30hr no sleep so chill out, I don't need your snide comments"

I don't mind a guy calling me out on my sh*t and telling me to chill out. Its been a rough week apparently. But, it really only takes 2.5sec to text Hi, or hey, I'll get back to you later. In the past he has texted pretty frequently when he travels.

But, his dismissive avoidance triggers the anxious person in me... the terrible people pleaser I am. I tried to keep it upbeat in my response. I validated his bad week, I apologized for my behavior and I said I hated that his week went so badly.

AND, then the world turns......

My XH texted me yesterday asking if I would be home tonight. His texts are on mute so it was some weird twist of fate I even noticed that he texted.

I did not want to see him so I lied and said "no". He was supposed to mail the car title to me but now he wants to see me???

He responded that he would be in my town later today and asked if he could drop off the car title in my mailbox.

NOW---- I had literally just fallen 5ft backwards off a ladder landing on the back of my head and lower back. I was in a lot of pain and had just been lying on the floor for the longest time not able to get up.

I was confused, disoriented.

I actually asked XH why was he coming to my town. ((I know I should not have, but I'm not thinking clearly)).

He said he had an errand. He was picking up motorcycle parts.

ME - Oh your bike trip is coming up right ((he told me when we were in the jacuzzi tub together in Dec))

XH - yes

ME - Anyway, I just fell backwards 5ft off a ladder landing on my head. Yes, leave it in the mailbox.

I don't know why I had a conversation with him. Those stopped weeks ago. I do NOT want to see him.

So XH came to the house. Pulled in the driveway and parked. Got out and rang the doorbell. What the Heck???? I did not answer the door. I did NOT want to see him. I already told him to leave it in the mailbox. He eventually left.

Turns out he was texting me about the accident I had, was it in the house? what was I doing?

Anyway, I texted pilot that today totally sucked and that I had fallen off a ladder, etc.

GUESS WHAT??? Nothing but crickets.

How crazy is it that my XH is showing more concern than the guy who's been wanting in my pants.

He is an A-hole first class... number deleted!!!!

As for my XH ----- D*MN HIM!!!!!! I did NOT want to see him. And, now all these texts from him open up feelings that I don't need or want anymore. Why didn't he just mail the car title like he stated he would???

I'm still in pretty bad shape from my fall yesterday.