My situation is a bit unique in that she is in an EA right now, even though it was PA before BD.
Your situation is not unique. Your W is having an affair. That happens in 99% of the situations here.
Originally Posted by PeterB
It was the PA that led her to BD in the first place - I am 100% sure; T
You are likely wrong here too. She has likely been looking to get out for a while and monkey branching is an easy escape for the monkey.
Originally Posted by PeterB
The promise of a new life is a powerful motivation for D.
People leave marriages for 1 of 2 reasons. Loss or attraction or don't see a happy future together.
Originally Posted by PeterB
I decided to LRT/GAL/180 after that and I am still in that journey.
What does LRT/GAL/180 mean to you? Sounds like you are trying to cook using a recipe and don't understand the ingredients.
Originally Posted by PeterB
But I am keen on setting boundaries. I know that it will become PA again if she travels to where OM lives.
So what happens if/when she does?
Originally Posted by PeterB
And in my current disposition that becomes a deal breaker.
So divorce? If so then tell her. Only if you mean it. I would word it this way "You can't have both. You need to pick one". Only do this if you mean it. If you do you will look strong. If you don't you will look weak and she will trample all over you.
Originally Posted by PeterB
I am mentally preparing myself for that action even though saving the MR is the north star.
