Textbook WAS behaviour. They want THEIR decision to be YOUR fault. You working on yourself is inconvenient to their narrative.
Your Option A Response: “You’re right, I should have made these changes last year oh perfect one, but I’ve changed now, can we work it out and try again?” Her translation: He obviously still wants to be with me, so it must be fake changes. I’m clearly making a smart decision.
Your Option B Response: “Oh well, we don’t always get what we want in life. Anyway, can’t talk, I’m off to the gym and then I’m going out with friends to a party. Her translation: What????? He doesn’t give a sh*t and seems really happy. I can’t stand not having him begging and pleading like a puppy dog. Perhaps I’m making a big mistake??
This is how the brain of a WAS works. It makes zero sense, but what cha gonna do?
Get busy living!
Wearing this on my sleeve so I remember it every time she asks me. She did today again. I answered exactly as the first statement in option B. I was busy doing the dishwasher so could not say I was off to party . She asked the same question again 10 secs later and this time I did not answer, although I made it clear by body language that I was present in the discussion and not ignoring her.
My one confusion is that she seems to believe that I want to be with her, or I am changing only to save the MR (I am not sure she truly believes this). At the same time she has understood that I am in good spirits and doing well for myself so she probably realizes that I will be doing fine in the future.
. She asked the same question again 10 secs later and this time I did not answer, although I made it clear by body language that I was present in the discussion and not ignoring her.
