I'd really focus on the boundaries vs. attempted control distinction. I had a really hard time with this. Bring your boundaries here and posters can help you parse out what is a boundary for you vs what is a "boundary" that you're setting to really try to control her.
Peter, I hope you're getting this message. A common "LBS Script" mistake is to try to control your wife via threats, ultimatums, and manipulation and call them "boundaries". Try not to be one of the statistics. Learn the power of try boundaries. Post before you try to implement them.
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