Dink,

Have you consulted with a L yet? If not, you should. Typically a free (or nominal fee) consult to explain your rights. You don't have to retain or pay them a lot if you can (preferably) work out an amicable agreement with W.

You don't have to meet in person to avoid a contested divorce. Email would work fine for dividing out your assets.

Me:39 Ex-W:37
M:7 T: 9
S:6 D:3
BD/IHS/Confirm EA/PA: Feb '20
OM1 affair ends: May '20
W/OM2 & moves out: June-July '20
W files for D: Jul20
OM2 confirmed: 9/2020
Divorced: May '21