Interestingly, I’d say about 90% of LBS new to this website (including me straight after BD) would choose option A - and unknowingly push their spouse even further away than they already are.
Option A - weak.
Option B - strong and attractive.
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Yes in this case she was getting very provocative and I thought that not responding would be best as it could potentially trap me. I did make it clear to her that I was listening. But point noted that in most cases of verbal face-to-face discussions, it is best to validate.
I think validation is sometimes over-rated on this site. I’d replace validation (ie you are right) with empathy (that sounds tough).
Leaving before she could “potentially trap me” is Jedi-Master behaviour. Well done Peter! Walking away from interactions is a strong move which shows you have self respect and will stick to your boundaries.
