Almost nothing I do is good enough. Never notices what I do around the house. My guy friends actually remark that I do so much and hope that their own wives don't find out. Apparently they don't do even half of what I do. Furthermore, our child is special needs so all his therapy needs are handled by me, including analysis and implementation - that is a full time job.
Originally Posted by Bl42
Is it possible you expected to be treated better based on how much you did around the house and cared for your son which led to you building up resentment towards her? The often recommended book around here is No More Mr. Nice Guy by Robert A. Glover.
While I don't love the author, his point about covert contracts is dead on. You're partners. Fair is 50/50. If you're doing much more (or less)--why? A typical "nice" man or woman does these behaviors with hidden expectations, and when these expectations aren't met build up resentment, which isn't "nice" at all. Sometimes the expectations are quite icky when you speak them aloud! A good partner does their share and if they do more either do it as a gift without expectation or if they're unwilling actively negotiate what they'll get in return so they don't built up resentment.
