Hi @SteveLW, thanks for your answers. I'm assuming she has had sexual intercourse with him. I have never cheated on her. You are right that currently the affair changes nothing unless I feel I should dump her for that.
I sleep in a different room. We are having sex. She U turns around to her 'D' self during the day and keeps repeating that it won't work out.
She has mentioned some of the things her friends, and counselor have told her about me and I found those downright evil of them as they have never met me. What should I tell her about her continuing discussions with them? I know that everytime she discuss with them it sets us back by miles.
Anytime a PA is even a possibility you need to stop having sex with her. You have to protect yourself. She is having sex with someone else, she could be a petri dish of disease right now.
Also, are you in the MBR or a guest BR? If so you need to move back into the MBR and move her out of the MBR. She is the one walking away, she is the one that should sleep elsewhere.
Remember, Peter, you cannot nice her back. Women are attracted to men they respect. They cannot be attracted to a man they do not. So command respect (do not demand it), and be assertive and look out for yourself. There will be times this makes her not like you (that is ok!), but she WILL respect you (which is what you want!).
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
