Her keeping a diary private is not wrong. You taking offense to this tells me you're overanalyzing things and looking to be hurt and offended. This is normal for someone in your position.
I did not take offense at her keeping a diary. I have known about it, just that I didn't know she wrote down details of fights (from her pov of course). Why that is interesting to me in this situation is that gives me an idea of what I am up against - dredging up bad memories can lead to powerful emotions.
Originally Posted by ovrrnbw
Don't worry or focus on the counselor validating her. This is normal too. Think nothing of it and focus elsewhere.
Don't blame him. She is choosing this. These situations always have a little crisis element but I don't see the purpose of going hog wild and labeling everything: depression, mid life crisis, etc.
Not blaming him at all. Although I have to keep in mind that he might try to make this an opportunity, as my wife is professionally much more successful than him and of course she is quite a looker. He lives a long flight away btw so its long distance. I wonder what is the implication of that?
Btw, depression is what happened to me all these years. Imho MLC is what happened to me as well as her. I learnt from this forum that MLC can be a formidable issue in relationships .
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