Sounds like you are doing better AnnKay. A gratitude journal is a great idea…keeps you focused on the positive. One thing I would be grateful for is that you found out about your H’s character now and not 15 years from now.
Thanks, Dejavu! Every day is a new day, so I just try to make it better than the last. As for finding out (only) now that guess it is the just the way of the Universe. At least I found out now, when I have enough distractions (toddler and baby on the way) to help me go through it.
Originally Posted by DejaVu6
You have the opportunity to build a better life for yourself and maybe meet a good guy later on when all of this is behind you and you’re ready to venture down that road again. I predict that you will look back on this in five years from now and, as the majority of us do, wonder why the heck you went though the emotional pain that you did.
I really cannot wait for this to happen. Maybe what also has helped me in my situation is the feeling that I am preparing myself with GAL, taking care of myself, 'clearing' my emotional clutter and focusing on my son (and unborn baby) for that time when I am happier and more settled. It will be great to find a good guy, definitely, but I am not fussed at the moment. All I know now is that when that day comes I know exactly what I want, and what I don't want from a relationship,and what I am willing to settle for and not.
