Her keeping a diary private is not wrong. You taking offense to this tells me you're overanalyzing things and looking to be hurt and offended. This is normal for someone in your position.
Don't worry or focus on the counselor validating her. This is normal too. Think nothing of it and focus elsewhere.
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I assure you that the strength she gets to divorce and screw up our son's life, is from this guy.
. Don't blame him. She is choosing this. These situations always have a little crisis element but I don't see the purpose of going hog wild and labeling everything: depression, mid life crisis, etc.
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What should I do if she sends me these long messages calling out specific incidents from the past? - What should I do if she messages me telling me how I have treated her bad all these years and why it's clear to her that I never loved her. - When she says that she cannot get over the past. - When she says that my changes are an act meant to prevent the divorce.
Just validate her. "I get that" or "Sure, I see how you feel that way".
But I would say at least once that "it wasnt that you didnt love you - not that it matters now ".
H 34 W 29 BD 3/12/18 Divorce Busted Spring 19
It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.
