I see nothing wrong with your response to the kibble message though you could have been more flirty. Your mistake was a long drawn out justification of a response. I do understand. I was just teasing you. Then drop it.
So you were never allowed to be tired or talk about your day with your exh? He is sounding more and more like a catch lol.
Zero expectations with Pilot. He is not a one woman kind of guy. He's a ten percenter who is clogging up the entire sexual market place.