I am just saying she could be nicer about all this, I am not over her and sometimes I just miss old days. I think if there was “NO” OM maybe it would be easier in my mind(when I did not know about OM I was as trying to talk sense into her, to my surprise it was firing back at me 10x. NC is great, helps me in a lot of ways - I don’t keep looking at the phone hoping to get a call from her. No expectations to talk to her. We do SEE each other every weekday multiple times saying the least which is BS and not saying a word to each other. Her missing me not going to happen, she sees way to much of me.
Some folks I know got divorced recently no one was dealing with anything remotely close to what I am going through both couples with kids too. Both gave me the same advice she cheated just walk away. I was and I am trying to R given the opportunity (I know it’s not going to happen in my sitch she already chose OM over S it’s a relationship NOW not an A) and I am making myself better every day.
See my previous post.
She isn't going to be nice because it doesn't fit her internal narrative. Please read the detachment thread. Once I got to a place where my W's words and actions had little affect on me (and I showed no outward reaction to them) things got better. Not saying detachment will save your MR, but it will even you out when she goes off the rails. Remember, you cannot control her, but you can control yourself.
NC in your situation is best approach. However, I would seriously consider a change of employment. I know that is extreme, but working with an EX has to be some kind of torture in third world countries. I would find a new job as soon as I could.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
