WW vs MLCer vs WAW

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Jq25,

I am just saying she could be nicer about all this

She is with OM and divorcing you. Time wrap your head around the fact she's not the nice loving woman you married and act accordingly.

I am not over her and sometimes I just miss old days.

That's certainly understandable.

I think if there was “NO” OM maybe it would be easier in my mind(when I did not know about OM I was as trying to talk sense into her, to my surprise it was firing back at me 10x.

I completely understand the mental anguish about OM, but as many other people told me, do not focus on her, him, or "them".

NC is great, helps me in a lot of ways - I don’t keep looking at the phone hoping to get a call from her. No expectations to talk to her.

Good! Keep it up.

We do SEE each other every weekday multiple times saying the least which is BS and not saying a word to each other. Her missing me not going to happen, she sees way to much of me.

Why do you see her every day? Your son is old enough to not need frequent exchanges. You're in the house and she's in an apartment...what's your plan with your L about custody?

Both gave me the same advice she cheated just walk away.

Many people would give that advice, but it's your life not theirs.

I was and I am trying to R given the opportunity

Unfortunately it's not up to you. Doesn't mean you won't have a chance to R at some point though.

(I know it’s not going to happen in my sitch

You can't possibly know what will happen in the future. This A could blow up in a month for all you know. In the meantime focus on improving yourself and be a rock for your son.

she already chose OM over S it’s a relationship NOW not an A) and I am making myself better every day.

You two are married and she's with another man. It absolutely is an affair. She can't just decide she's not married anymore and proclaim "it's a stand up relationship now, not an affair".