Hi. It has been mentioned that maybe I should chime in because my ex left me when our daughter was 6 months old for someone he started dating during my high risk, IVF pregnancy. However, I hesitated because you are likely not in the place to hear what I have to say and it would frowned upon here. I will tell you we did not reconcile. He did marry his affair partner, they just celebrated their 11th wedding anniversary and are all away on spring break vacation now. And I will tell you, we all get along just fine now.
My daughter is 14, a happy well adjusted girl. I have primary custody, he has every other weekend and one night a week. My daughter and I are super close .i never remarried.
That being said, in the beginning I think I would have forgiven anything just to have my family back together . I’m hindsight, nope, no I wouldn’t have. To cheat on your pregnant wife is the worst kind of betrayal. To me, it doesn’t get worse than that. It’s darned bear evil to me. Then to leave her with babies? Godawful .
I would save the “this must be difficult on HIM” compassion. He had choices. This is a pretty bad one. It should be difficult on him.
I am a LBS who does not think the WAW is always wrong or evil. Sometimes, it is warranted and understandable. But I realize I can’t find one reason why it was acceptable for my exH to walk out the door with a 6 month old baby at home .
I am so sorry you find yourself here in this situation. I hate it for anyone. It’s heart breaking . I’m just here to let you know that you will survive, thrive, and your kids will be OK.
