Thanks. It was certainly an awful period of my life. To answer your question I naively offered to R in an attempt to keep our family together, did everything I could to make that happen, didn't want the kids to go through life in a "broken" family, but it didn't matter what I said or did - I later found out she had OM2 before she even moved out - she was off to the races.
Sorry to hear this. I could be wrong, but it sounds that your exWife already had one foot out the door after OM1, so it did not matter what you did. I can see that this also applies in my situation where it really did not matter what I did or said. I found myself thinking about the 'what if' H decided to come back and if I wanted to reconcile. A couple of weeks ago maybe I would say there was a chance, but I cannot see that anymore, at least at the moment. I could see that what H is doing is hurting my son and I do not want him growing up thinking it is OK to be a jerk, disrespect women and still come back like nothing happened.
Originally Posted by BL42
Wise words. But also don't beat yourself up that you're not detached yet. It takes time for most. You'll get there.
How's are you doing this weekend?
Thank you, BL42. It has been very helpful to be in this board and hear everyone's experience and point of view. I look at (and slowly practising) detachment as essentially a self preservation mechanism, and not a way to 'manipulate' H to come back.
This weekend has been better than before. I am less anxious and restless. I started a gratitude journal as suggested by my DB coach and so far the exercise is attracting only positive things. I was told by Obgyn that my Gestational Diabetes seemed under control. On Saturday, some friends gave me free tickets to the (sold out) F1 Grand Prix . I went with my son and friends who brought their kids too. It was great to just be out and about, knowing I can have as much if not more fun without H. It was also good to see my son getting more comfortable with my friends and their kids as well, so at least he knows he has other people who care for him even if H is not there.
I hope you and everyone on the board all have a good weekend as well!
. I went with my son and friends who brought their kids too. It was great to just be out and about, knowing I can have as much if not more fun without H. It was also good to see my son getting more comfortable with my friends and their kids as well, so at least he knows he has other people who care for him even if H is not there. 
