Nevanna, why do you get so freaked out about spotting H?
Do you guys go to a hardcore gym, or a Ballys type place?
I grew up lifting so it's natural to me. But maybe if you went to a local college and watched the football players spot each other it would help you. Just shout at him "you can do it, come on, keep going, don't wimp out"
Basically, spotting is easy, it the encouragement that gets me. As long as you don't take the weight away from H, you're fine.
