It's obvious that it has been difficult for him. He looks so much more skinny and generally unhealthy, but it is his decision. I understand and accept there is nothing I can do to change anything here.
As we say around here "not your monkeys, not your circus". That's his deal now. You just focus on your and the kids.
Originally Posted by AnnKay
Sorry to hear about this, BL42. It must have been a horrible thing to go through especially when you had to care for your little ones too. How awful that ExW started dating OM2 after the first affair. After she was found out, did you both ever try reconciling?
Thanks. It was certainly an awful period of my life. To answer your question I naively offered to R in an attempt to keep our family together, did everything I could to make that happen, didn't want the kids to go through life in a "broken" family, but it didn't matter what I said or did - I later found out she had OM2 before she even moved out - she was off to the races.
Originally Posted by AnnKay
I (Mum) have made a lot of sacrifices, care and love to get you (Me) to where you are in life, and it's a waste of your head space to be worrying for someone who cannot treat your (my) life with at least as much love and respect.
Wise words. But also don't beat yourself up that you're not detached yet. It takes time for most. You'll get there.
How's are you doing this weekend?
Me:39 Ex-W:37 M:7 T: 9 S:6 D:3 BD/IHS/Confirm EA/PA: Feb '20 OM1 affair ends: May '20 W/OM2 & moves out: June-July '20 W files for D: Jul20 OM2 confirmed: 9/2020 Divorced: May '21