How does your ex respond to what you say when you told her this?
Good question. I don’t really give a sh*t or take any notice of her response from that point on, so I’m not really sure
Once she starts acting like an adult again (usually takes a week or so), then I re-engage.
haha what a good detachment. I need to get to this point. After coming back home post-isolation, now it seems all that talk about 'not being able to help with anything' is mostly just talk. H is still picking up and dropping off son in the end, and said he would help getting rid of some things from our storage to prep for newborn. I don't really think too much about that last part as I'm already enlisting some friends to help out with cleaning.
Originally Posted by Kind18
When she starts playing her games and I have to state my boundaries, I normally remember how you only get about 80 laps around the sun and this reminds me not to waste any of that time on her games. I don’t routinely stick my fingers into power sockets either. It’s called self preservation, I guess.
that's a great way to look at it. I aim to stay away from power sockets too haha. My Mum said something along the same lines too, but rather from her perspective. It was something along the lines of 'I (Mum) have made a lot of sacrifices, care and love to get you (Me) to where you are in life, and it's a waste of your head space to be worrying for someone who cannot treat your (my) life with at least as much love and respect.' She may sound a little selfish, but I think she has a point.
