You know, you could be right about what you said. Maybe she has wanted this for a while and is high on happiness of escaping a marriage she does want. Time will tell I guess, but I do know that this time when she told me i did say I wasn’t going to persuade her to stay or try to talk her out of it. I kinda that about the old saying if you love something let it go. If it comes back it is yours, if it doesn’t it wasn’t meant to be. When I originally wrote that about the mental stuff it was actually her sister and husband he brought it up, because her grandmother was bipolar, and once had to be taken from her house in a straight jacket her sister said. I know the first time 3 years ago she approached me about wanting a divorce, I found out she was tied up in an emotional affair and she admitted to having sex once. I did everything wrong and begged pleaded, pursued you name it.
I don't speak for LBS, but for me I think i have been trying to use reason or so call find a reason on why at times. And as you all have said, it's a dead end. I tried the death of her dad 6 months ago, the heart procedure of her mom two months ago, the fractured hip of her 100 year old grandma a few weeks ago. MLC, her self esteem because of her weight, she is 4`11 and weighs more than I do, im 6`1 185 but I always told her she is more than a number On a scale and her sister just having gastric by pass and has slimmed way down and she has told me she is jealous of her. I have used all these things in my post to tried to explain this, and it could possibly be what you said it may be, I guess only time will tell .
This time when she told me I said, I am not going to try to stop you this, (as hard as it was for me to do). And for the past month since getting the news I have reached out very minimal, as I said 95% of contact has been initiated by her. I have to let her find her own path, whether it leads her away or even if it may lead her back. I know I have to GAL, and let the chips fall where they may. Thanks for the feed back, and ecspecially hearing from a woman's point of view.
