MWD recommends against exposure for some very good reasons. The posters in the past that were successful, limited the exposure of the truth to a select few, like spouses parents. There is definitely a short window and a very specific way I would do it. Since I do not have children with my current lady, I would wish her well and move on. I do not share my lady with other men and I do not want to be with a woman who does not want to be with me.
R2C - Wow This is exactly how my conversation about divorce took place other then couple words were different LOL. Nuts, my Ex told me that she doesn’t love me anymore. Another one ☝️ how civilised she wants a divorce to be - but NOTHING she is doing to be civil, SHE is running around like a few seconds ago branded monkey in agony making my life hell from every angle.
"I'm really sorry you feel that way. I certainly hear you, and that this is what you want. It's not what I want, however, and I think we owe it to our kids to not just cut and run here because one of us suddenly wants out of the marriage."
😢 very sad I DID NOT answer like that, I turned into a doormat, I begged and tried to reason with her……. No luck, a week that I was doing it felt as if I just gave her ammunition, she was as cold as dry ice and psycho female dog.
😢 very sad I DID NOT answer like that, I turned into a doormat, I begged and tried to reason with her……. No luck
Most of us do/did not know how to properly interact.
PuppyDogTails, RobX, AllenA, Coach, Gucci, all had different approaches, they all were effective. Learning the different approaches and knowing when to apply them is a great skill to have.
Most of the behaviors are predictable. Being prepared in advance on how you want to behave/interact/respond is extremely helpful.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
How do I get to their stuff just by search? Also the previous links you shared Puppy was talking about exposing A and had an option 2a and 2b. I can’t find the original post anywhere, any suggestions?
😢 very sad I DID NOT answer like that, I turned into a doormat, I begged and tried to reason with her……. No luck
Most of us do/did not know how to properly interact.
You're far from the first person to not respond strongly in the face of BD. Most of us here tried to beg and reason their way out of it. All you can do is learn, improve, and act accordingly going forward.
Originally Posted by Jq25
How do I get to their stuff just by search?
If you come across a forum user and click on the link associated with their screen name, you can click "View Profile" then the # of "Total Posts" and then "Threads Created" to see all their personal threads and history.
Originally Posted by Jq25
Also the previous links you shared Puppy was talking about exposing A and had an option 2a and 2b. I can’t find the original post anywhere, any suggestions?
Not sure of the original post on the topic in this forum, but I've come across Option A and B on other forums. It refers to exposing the affair to bust it vs not. You can find the details on another site if you google enough, but we're not suppose to link other sites explicitly here.
Me:39 Ex-W:37 M:7 T: 9 S:6 D:3 BD/IHS/Confirm EA/PA: Feb '20 OM1 affair ends: May '20 W/OM2 & moves out: June-July '20 W files for D: Jul20 OM2 confirmed: 9/2020 Divorced: May '21
