Last night my son, who 27 and just out of the marine core about a year ago after six years. He went out with my cousin who is my age 53 and has went thru a divorce a few years back. My cousin asked if it was ok to reach out to him and ask if he wanted to get a beer and just talk. My cousin has two sons one about my sons age and knows what it’s like with kids hearing their parents are getting a divorce.
This son of my three kids had the hardest time last time, and this time he again is having a difficult time, out of all of my kids and their spouses. All three this time were surprised because the thought things were a lot better with my wife and I. Even when I told my son and his wife last Saturday That my wife and are we’re parting ways, one of the first thing he said , I don’t know why but I made at mom. I said Hey listen, this was a mural Decision, and his wife said to him to stop. Well my son and cousin as I said met for a drink, and my son called me from the bar last night with my cousin, and obviously had a few to many beers. When he call at first he was saying, hanging out with Swamp man, (my cousin nickname) and having a few beers. I said yeah he is a good dude. Then he goes, I mad at mom, I think she is being a bitch to you. I said hey stop, as I told you this was a mutual decision, he goes I know, but I think she is being mean to you, she hasn’t even talk to us yet, she just texted and said when she would met with us and I have some questions for her why she is being such a fing c#nt.
I said stop knock it off , I told you this is something mom and I decided together. My sister in law, my wife’s sister, had reached out to me yesterday since the day before my wife must have told her I told the kids on Saturday. In talking with her she said that my son had reached out to her on Monday or Tuesday I believe and said something at one point to the effect of, do you know if there funny business going ?
I tried to calm him down last night, and assure him that This was mutual decision, but he was quit intoxicated. When I got off the phone I called his wife and said you need to pick him as he can’t drive, and she said he was having a hard time with this and she was so mad at him when I called her and I told her what he was saying.
She said He was having a hard time, and even from last time has talked to him about going to counseling and stuff. I told her at least for tonight please just pick him and and try not to argue because it won’t do any good tonight as he is intoxicated and at least wait till the morning or tomorrow to talk.
My sister in law when she called said why hasn’t My wife talked with the kids yet, and I said we decide this time we were going to do,it separate as last time with everybody it was much hard with all the emotions and stuff. I said I told your sister I was going to tell them Saturday and we could do it together or separate, and she said you can tell them And I will tell separate and try to get with them the next day or something,
Well instead of calling or going to see them the next day she sent each couple a text To schedule to meet with them, she never even called them.And from my understanding from my son from last night she is suppose to met one couple Wednesday one Thursday and one Saturday.
And Her sister was like why in the hell would she text them and not go over to see them, and wait this long? I said you to ask her that as I Don’t know I have not spoke with her. Her sister was pissed. I said I asked her if she wanted to go Saturday with me but she said she had plans Saturday, and thought because when I have talked to,her I do it with such hate in my voice that the kids would be able to see sense it. Her sister said what in the absolute #uck is she thinking . So you told the kids Saturday and she still hasn’t been over to meet with each couple? I said again you have to talk to her I don’t know.
