Pregnant, Abandoned Twice, Affairs OW continued

[AnnKay]

AnnKay,

it appears that OW has moved about more than an hour away from where we live (and H's office, as his work is close to us).

How do you know this?

This means that H will have to go through a lot of commute going back and forth. Because he does not want to drive, he ends up taking the train or cycling.

This is speculation/mind reading.

I knew because H finally told me. Yes, I know, I know, mind reading is something I cannot help to do sometimes. I realize it is pointless and I know I need to own it and detach.

We're not talking about a rational/logical thinker. He's acting on emotions because he's caught up in an affair thinking that everything will be wonderful and perfect between the two of them. It's like a drug addiction. Drug addicts don't stop and think "it's going to be impractical to keep my job and family and live like this". Don't count on his thoughts and actions making sense.

Thank you, BL42. Yes. It is kind of my own fault to be expecting anything.

Their isolation period will end on Thursday so we will see how it goes. Fingers crossed.

Hope you get to see your son in person soon and give him a big hug. I'm sure you miss him.

yes. I cannot wait to see him again and maybe just spend the next weekend staying in and bonding again.

AnnKay - Like SteveLW says, try not to focus on OW. It's impossibly difficult, I know. But as much as you hate her and what she's doing to your family try to remember/accept it's your H w. I was originally all hung up on OM and hoped things would blow up, and they did.

I understand that H is the issue here. OW is nuts, I know, but I would think H would be intelligent enough to know this. Again, I understand what you and SteveLW is saying. It is hard, and I guess I am a little hormonal, but I need to really try to detach more, have no expectations and believe nothing when it comes to H.
How did things start to unravel with your ExW? and what made you think that they would blow up before they did?