I am not sure whether I have updated this, but it appears that OW has moved about more than an hour away from where we live (and H's office, as his work is close to us). This means that H will have to go through a lot of commute going back and forth. Because he does not want to drive, he ends up taking the train or cycling. I do not doubt that OW is doing this to get him away from me and son, but all he ever says is that "she is moving away because she was moving on with her life and too hurt to know he came back to me that time." I really do not get how an intelligent adult can't see that this move is problematic. Either way, H has been OK enough in communicating about son and what son has been doing during isolation. I have been responding in short and nice way. Their isolation period will end on Thursday so we will see how it goes. Fingers crossed.
Ann, so why is all of this important? Is this giving you false hope that now that she is an hour away, the A will come to an end?
This just means that H currently lives away from us and will need to travel further to see us. I guess it is just confirming something we have already established anyway, that H is whipped and not acting or thinking rationally. It is just another disappointment, but it makes me feel that there is very little left of what I have known as my husband.
Originally Posted by SteveLW
What are you finger-crossing about? Once isolation is ended he will come back? I am sorry, I am missing the points you are trying to make.
Finger crossing that all goes well with the end of isolation covid test for H and Son so that I can come home safely. I actually am more disgusted by him, so at the moment I do not think about him coming back.
Originally Posted by SteveLW
I would forget about OW and what she may or may not be doing? You said "it appears that", where are you getting that intel? Are you snooping on her social media? Are you taking what he says at face value?
It is something that H told me a while ago pre-covid result. He said OW moved away after H came back to me in October and he had stayed there since he left me again in January.
Originally Posted by SteveLW
She was skeptical and told me something that has stuck with me ever since. She says: "Never underestimate a cheater's capacity to continue the affair. They will find a way to meet with the AP, there is no obstacle too large for them to overcome to do that. They will always find a way." So if you are putting your hope on the A ending because she moves away (if she really is moving away), I am afraid you will be disappointed.
Again, remember the mantra: Believe NOTHING he says. This is probably the biggest mistake LBSs make.
I am not putting hope on the A ending because OW moves away, as I mentioned above. She has already moved (and therefore he moved away) from the beginning of this second time. I just happened to learn of it recently. I understand, and thankful that you point out what your friend told you, however. I realize that nothing I do can stop or change the state of the A.
