Pregnant, Abandoned Twice, Affairs OW continued

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AnnKay,

it appears that OW has moved about more than an hour away from where we live (and H's office, as his work is close to us).

How do you know this?

This means that H will have to go through a lot of commute going back and forth. Because he does not want to drive, he ends up taking the train or cycling.

This is speculation/mind reading.

I do not doubt that OW is doing this to get him away from me and son

More speculation/mind reading.

all he ever says is that "she is moving away because she was moving on with her life and too hurt to know he came back to me that time." I really do not get how an intelligent adult can't see that this move is problematic.

We're not talking about a rational/logical thinker. He's acting on emotions because he's caught up in an affair thinking that everything will be wonderful and perfect between the two of them. It's like a drug addiction. Drug addicts don't stop and think "it's going to be impractical to keep my job and family and live like this". Don't count on his thoughts and actions making sense.

Either way, H has been OK enough in communicating about son and what son has been doing during isolation. I have been responding in short and nice way.

Good. It's important you two can discuss the children amicably, for the kids' sake.

Their isolation period will end on Thursday so we will see how it goes. Fingers crossed.

Hope you get to see your son in person soon and give him a big hug. I'm sure you miss him.

AnnKay - Like SteveLW says, try not to focus on OW. It's impossibly difficult, I know. But as much as you hate her and what she's doing to your family try to remember/accept it's your H w. I was originally all hung up on OM and hoped things would blow up, and they did. But guess what? ExW started dating OM2 and moved out and moved him in and divorced me anyway. Your H is the root of the issues.

Remember when someone tells you who they are, believe them. Your H's actions are telling you he's someone who would leave his pregnant wife to have an affair.