Pregnant, Abandoned Twice, Affairs OW continued

[SteveLW]

I am not sure whether I have updated this, but it appears that OW has moved about more than an hour away from where we live (and H's office, as his work is close to us). This means that H will have to go through a lot of commute going back and forth. Because he does not want to drive, he ends up taking the train or cycling.
I do not doubt that OW is doing this to get him away from me and son, but all he ever says is that "she is moving away because she was moving on with her life and too hurt to know he came back to me that time." I really do not get how an intelligent adult can't see that this move is problematic.
Either way, H has been OK enough in communicating about son and what son has been doing during isolation. I have been responding in short and nice way.
Their isolation period will end on Thursday so we will see how it goes. Fingers crossed.

Ann, so why is all of this important? Is this giving you false hope that now that she is an hour away, the A will come to an end?

What are you finger-crossing about? Once isolation is ended he will come back? I am sorry, I am missing the points you are trying to make.

What I see is a lot of focus on him and the OW. I am not sure that his healthy for you to focus on. You have your son. You have your unborn child. You have to be focusing on them. Taking care of son. Eating right and staying healthy for the baby. Etc. I would forget about OW and what she may or may not be doing? You said "it appears that", where are you getting that intel? Are you snooping on her social media? Are you taking what he says at face value?

And then you are surmising about what he will do: "his means that H will have to go through a lot of commute going back and forth. Because he does not want to drive, he ends up taking the train or cycling." When I was going through my sitch, which was an EA not a PA, I took a lot of solace in that. I was talking to someone that had cheated on her husband about things, and how it wasn't possible for my W to be in a PA. She was skeptical and told me something that has stuck with me ever since. She says: "Never underestimate a cheater's capacity to continue the affair. They will find a way to meet with the AP, there is no obstacle too large for them to overcome to do that. They will always find a way." So if you are putting your hope on the A ending because she moves away (if she really is moving away), I am afraid you will be disappointed.

Again, remember the mantra: Believe NOTHING he says. This is probably the biggest mistake LBSs make.