so after affair discovery why do you guys feel that the LBS always seems to be the one so damaged and depressed ?
Dink, a couple of us on this forum have been the WAS. That's an easy one to answer for me. If you want to hear, read on. If reading might trigger you, skip the rest of this post.
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The WAS was often in profound pain for years or months growing like a crescendo until Ball Drop. Ball Drop is near the start of profound pain for the LBS which may take months or years to abate. Without speculating whose pain is stronger or longer or more righteous, the WAS' and LBS' pain are inverses. You both get damaged and depressed--at different times. You'll both heal given time.
