1. He’s threatening to see if you’ll take the bait. He wants to know he’s still got you as his plan B if it doesn’t work out with OW. This is textbook, classic affair behaviour. Do not respond to it under any circumstances.
Thanks Kind18, you're like the WAS whisperer (or psychic). I did not respond to him and as it turned out, he ended up staying in the apartment with my son despite whatever fears I had.
Originally Posted by Kind18
2. Maybe he’s going to be a pig during the divorce and make it really acrimonious. And maybe he won’t. Do you think that’s something in your control? Newsflash - what you say or do won’t change a wayward spouse making shi**y decisions. LBS often get themselves wrapped up in “what if I say xyz or abc, maybe it will be amicable, I don’t want to piss him off, maybe this is a sign of things to come, what does it all mean….
Don’t disappear down that tunnel. He’s going to do what he’s going to do, and how/if you respond is not going to change anything.
I completely agree and understand this concept when I am reading this, but whenever something happens, all reasoning seem to go out the window. I know I still have a long way to go until I can consciously avoid the tunnel more effectively.
