You spend 2/3rds of your life with some and your family, and in a blink of an eye it’s all gone.
This is how I saw it too and this does sound difficult. It is difficult. Logically it's not all gone. You have memories, kids. But us men especially view time together as a bond, as loyalty, as strength. The time together means alot. To the WW or WAW, its about the current feeling.
I imagine there is a lot of disappointment you are contending with. You writing is smart, it will help. I never thought I'd say this as a man but one of the things that helped me most when I did a little counseling was when my counselor named the feeling I had. WTH, how just hearing one word helped is crazy. The point here, is that getting it out makes it a little easier. And in the tough times, a little easier goes a long way.
H37, W37 D4, S2 ILYBNILWY 9/19 BD 9/19 EA discovered 10/19 Currently in limbo, no D or S process initiated