Originally Posted by Kind18
Yes, you chose the correct answer. Boss moves only from here on. What would Chuck Norris do?

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I don’t think going to the gym will do anything, physical changes don’t influence much, we been together for over a decade. She have seen me fit - athletic with 6 pack - and then over the years I turned into a pregnant fat dude.

I think you’ve missed the point with the gym…


The gym comment relates to mental health. When I first separated and was struggling emotionally, I was advised to exercise/gym like I never have before. I didn’t feel like it and moaned. And the professional who gave that advice then told me he’s been working with people for over forty years in this field, and of all the advice he gives, it’s the one MOST LIKELY to improve things quickly. He said “do it for four weeks even if it’s not making a difference, and come back to me.”

So I did. I exercised (gym and cardio) like I never have before. I hated it. I didn’t feel any better, but I kept going. At three weeks, I suddenly started feeling different. I was sleeping a bit better because I was physically exhausted, I felt more motivated, ate better, and ruminating in my mind about the whole sh*t show began to become less frequent.

At four weeks, I felt like a mentally changed person. I went back, and he had this smug a** grin on his face of “told you so.”

IMHO, the absolute BEST thing you can do to manage your mental health during the first six months of a relationship breakdown - is to exercise hard and long.

Who cares what she thinks! You do it for you, and your mental health.

Four weeks of >90 mins extremely strenuous exercise every day. That’s my challenge to you…. Do you have the guts to take it on?


I accept your challenge, I already do this. I know it helps me not to loose my marbles completely. Will make going to a gym a habit part of My life. It’s hard but I met some people in the gym also that’s how I was advised too to check out this site.