Traveler, after reading your comment I agree with you. As far as doing the separate chats, announcing that at a little later date is a better plan. I feel it is necessary for me to further detach but waiting a little bit isn’t going to matter that much at this,point. My wife called me after selling my message about going to my sons tomorrow to get my paint sprayer. We spoke briefly and she said so when were you planning on telling the kids. I told her I was planning on telling the kids tomorrow I can do it by myself. She said you weren’t even going to tell me? I said when you called me Tuesday after leaving his house you said we need to tellbecause I think they might know something is is going on. I said ok just let me know when, she said you want to together or separate, I said im good either way. I didn't hear from you since Tuesday, so made my decision I wanted to tell the Saturday. I said I can tell them by myself, then you can do the same thing or if you prefer we can go together Saturday. She said I have plans Saturday, what about Sunday, I said I have plans Sunday. She then says I could possibly Saturday if we do it early, I said that’s fine. She was on her way to see her grandma who just had surgery. On her way home from seeing her grandma she calls me and says, im good with you just telling them tomorrow and I will see them on Sunday I said ok, if you are sure. She goes, I think it would probably be better because I don’t want to be there together because they will see that you hate you have for me in your eyes. I said im not going to throw under the bus and I will do the talking unlike last time if you want me to. I will make it short and say your mom and I have made a decision to part ways after trying to reconcile these past three years and we have been unable to get to that place unfortunately. Our relationship with you won’t change we will always be your mom and dad and we both love you very much . Yes things are going to unfortunately change as far as the family aspect, but currently we don’t know how everything is going to look. She was crying and saying so you are just going to cut me out of your life, and not talk with me, and we can’t be friends? I said I told you that unfortunately I wouldn’t be able to do that, you fired me as your husband and im not comfortable being in the friend role for you, exspecially after finding out about the current affair. She goes I know you hate me I can just tell my how cold you are being towards me when I have reached out to you. She said I do still love you and care about you , im just not in love with you. I said well you kinda blindside me and even last time we went thru this I told you the same thing. For me to move I need to do this for myself. And she cried more and I said I will go tomorrow and I will text you and let you know who I was all able to talk to so that you know and can plan accordingly for when you go Sunday. And she said fine and we hung up.
