Need advice please (2)

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Dink,

I'm not sure there's a "right" way. Like others have recommended, I would keep it honest and brief and avoid any blaming/mudslinging or details.

In terms of logistics, not sure there's ever going to be a perfect time so IF you're sure you want to tell them I would just do it.

That said, if I were you I'd give plenty of thought into whether A) you want to be the one to tell them as opposed to letting your wife do it if she wants to and B) whether you are going to say it's mutual or your W's decision. Be honest, but also know there's only one chance at a first impression, so don't tell them hoping it'll wake your W out of her affair fog and don't put yourself in a situation down the road where you think "I didn't really want this but I told my kids I did".