Pregnant, Abandoned Twice, OW Affairs MLC? the Lot

[BL42]

Thanks, BL42. I will push for primary custody.

Good. I think that's the right decision considering a soon-to-be-newborn, plus your H's behaviors (though the law/courts don't typically care about immorality anymore).

There is a separation agreement we both agreed to after the first time he left, and in there issues of spousal maintenance, child support etc was laid out. The lawyer had a look at it and suggested it is reasonable as long as he has no contestation.

Good, that'll make the process easier on you - though obviously be sure to adjust the amounts for the addition of a child.

I guess what I am trying to do is to preempt him from threatening to bring OW in the apartment

I am also a little afraid that she might end up coming into the apartment and therefore meeting my son prematurely.

I get it. Trust me. My now ExW moved OM2 in with my kids soon after she moved out. It hurt immensely. It's wrong...etc. Unfortunately there is absolutely nothing you can do about it, so you'll have to let it go. Most western countries do not factor in affairs/infidelity/morality at all into the equation any more. It has very little to no bearing on the proceedings, so unless there's documented physical or drug abuse or criminal history is unfortunately it's simply out of your control. Not an easy pill to swallow, as myself, Ginger1, DejaVu6 and many others can attest to, but it is what it is. Sorry :-(