Living in the Light VII

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DejaVu6,

I’ve been driving my new car for over a week now and LOVE it!!

Glad you're enjoying the new vehicle!

Speaking of first XH, I had a very strange dream the other night. I dreamt that I was getting married again and when I walked up to the alter, I was completely shocked to see him standing there. Ummm… haven’t dreamt about him or thought about him in at least 20 years. What the heck is that about? Perhaps my upcoming trip has my subconscious working through leftover feelings?? Ours was a different kind of divorce. We never got to the point where either of us had any resentments towards the other one. At the time, we just felt like we had drifted apart and were going in different directions and we were young enough that breaking up didn’t seem like that big of a deal. It felt more like a gift we were giving each other.

Now…22 years later…we still hold each other in very high regard and both of us are single and not really dating. Since my divorce, we’ve been talking on average about once every couple of weeks. When I was married, it was about once a year with the odd visit if XH and I were in the area. He’s a good looking, smart, kind and honest guy… pretty much the type of guy I’m trying to find on OLD. He is already a part of my life… my sister and husband like him and my kids do too (they’ve met him a few times over the years). I love his family and they love me. In a lot of ways, it would make sense for us to try again so I get why my subconscious has been trying the idea on for size.

Interesting. Thoughts like these demonstrate however unlikely it's never impossible two people could reunite after a D even many years down the road.

Hmmmm.....it might help to remind yourself exactly why you divorced. I'm sure there was something more to it than "we just drifted apart". You may have forgotten or buried some of the issues.

I wonder the same thing.