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Ginger1,

I’m just so confused about this dating thing. 14 years and nothing to show for it. While I am really yearning for that great emotional connection, I am trying to decide if getting there is worth it or a cheese less tunnel for me, as they say

14 years is a long time. That must be frustrating. I don't have any advice; less than a year in and already getting a sense/taste of what you've experienced. That our Exs walked right into another long term situation at BD doesn't help.

It seems the men I’m not interested in are interested in me, and the ones I am interested in aren’t interested in me!

Just curious, have you given this some self-reflection and discussed it with IC?

I would love to move to a slower paced more peaceful place, by the mountains and the beach. New people, new scenery, it would be really refreshing. 3.5 years. Seems so far away. And I hate that I am mentally rushing through my daughters high school years just to get there.

Encourage your daughter to go to an area/state close to where you want to move!

my must haves include a job, not live over an hour away, must be legally divorced. No separation and no recent divorce in a year or under...Must be employed and must not be just freeloading...I would like some similar hobbies , but there are no hard or fast rules about that.

Seems like a reasonable list which if anything sets the the bar low.

I’m mostly attracted to the blue collar type. They aren’t even bad boys. They are regular men.

My “type” is a humble but confident man. Hard working, funny and fun.

This is a tricky thing to ask, but why do you think they're not interested in you? Maybe something to self-reflect and self-improve on? Though don't want to sound insulting because I'm sure you probably have over the years.