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[Elbereth]

Ginger, if you and the coworkers son don’t find a connection, you could say that you simply didn’t feel any chemistry with him even if you thought he was a great person.

To me, chemistry is something that is either there or isn’t. And it can be intellectual and/or sexual (among other things). Not having chemistry with someone is not someone’s fault. It’s not within our control. Someone can be perfect on paper and there can be no chemistry.

So, if you respond with that, how could anyone fault you? It’s the truth. I mean, if finding someone was all about finding someone perfect on paper, we’d all have arranged relationships.

If you are honest and open and truthful, how could your coworkers hold that against you? Same thing with telling guys you date that you are not feeling the chemistry with them? It’s honest and better than stringing things along only to hurt someone’s feelings. It’s definitely easier to accept than being told you are not someone’s type…which to me implies that they are missing something specific. Chemistry is not specific. It’s ambiguous.

And to me, chemistry can be instantaneous. But it also can develop as you know more about someone. So give someone a few dates or connections to feel it out. But only as long as you are intrigued enough for another date. And also accept that someone may not feel chemistry towards you but that takes nothing away from the awesome person you are. People just click or they don’t.

I think if this guy you had been texting just ghosted you, that says a lot about the person. A good honest and open person would give you an explanation. Sure, it can be awkward, but I feel that being a good person to others is more important than a moment of awkwardness of telling someone you are not feeling the chemistry or have moved on with other interests.

Anyway, those are my suggestions for you to consider.

El