NEXT!

[DonH]

He just didn’t seem like the ghosting type, even if he was more interested in someone else. He was also acting very interested, then not . But it’s Ok. I am not going to think too much into it. I just know even when things seem decent, don’t trust it.

This is what finally did it in for me with OLD. Even the people who you’d think would be the last to ghost or do other things seem to have zero problems with doing it. The frustration and hopelessness of it all left me feeling worse than if I didn’t try at all - yet still in the same place. I have to give you huge credit if you really are not letting it get to you. But are you really? How could it not? I’m really strong with huge self-esteem and it got to me.

Since it appears after finally coming over to our side about OLD LH has just ghosted himself… I’ll have to ask you what I know he already has in the past and would again - why are you going back to it AGAIN? Just weeks ago you said you were done with it, for the 19th time. Then in a flash you are back. Why? These seemingly spur of the moment changes and reactions worry me. You have this pattern of saying one thing but then doing the opposite.

I also wonder about your type/don’t have a type with these blue collar guys. What’s up with that? The guys you seem to be interested in and attracted to are not good for you yet guys that are interested in you and may be good for you you’re not interested in. This is by your own admission. While I also understand it I have to wonder how much it has to do with both if our sitchs.

I wish I had the answer as time just keeps passing by and here we are. I fear moving is not it. Sure it may help with other things but the guys you are meeting, interested in and rejecting won’t change because your location does. Seems the best woukd be to figure out why you can’t accept one if the guys who are really into you. Easier said than done perhaps but half of the equation is already in place - they are interested. This is the piece you can’t control - their interest. You have more control over your response. I know I coukd tell the same things to myself as well so I know it’s not easy. But shouid it all be so hard?