Need advice please

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Dink,

I think you speak to her way too often. Look up Last Resort Technique. And even if you really are at the point of not wanting to save it, then you still shouldn't be talking to her so much.

The last few posters told you that you should be drawing a hard line on communication and strictly limiting it. That’s because if you don’t, this stuff happens and makes things even worse.

At this point you need to go dark. (LRT) You need to never answer her phone calls, certainly never call her. If she texts with a direct question, answer it in as few words as possible, but not right away (remember you are out GAL!). No greetings and salutations. No closings. No courtesies, just business like. Yes and no questions should get yes or no answers.

Last thing, you talk to her way much. You aren’t giving her an opportunity to miss you, or a reason too miss you. In the absolute simplest of terms, people want what they can’t have.

Let it go. NC!

Read the quotes above I pulled from others' comments. A handful of posters have already said communicate less (or not at all). There was nothing in her call or texts about the bank account you needed to respond to, and certainly no back and forth. Don't ease her into the transition. She already notice you didn't call her back about your sister. Make her wonder why you're not responding to the questions about the bank as well. Or any other topics for that matter.

She said you know you can call me or whatever to talk, we are still family.

Lots of them say it. It's a farce. She's living with OM and asking for a Divorce. DO NOT give her the comfort of pretending you'll still be friends or still a family.

Strange

Don't over think this. Most of them act strange, but don't fool yourself into thinking her acting upbeat or project your hopes of her leaving OM and keeping the marriage together onto her nice conversation.