Affairs are like drug addictions. You can't work on the R while another person is involved. You can work on yourself. Most guys that wind up here do not know how to be attractive. That is one of the first things you can can change that is under your control.
The way you interact with her (and women in general) is important. Do your research on gaining respect. Learn to project extreme confidence . Lead during this most difficult time.
Embrace this. It was the best worst thing that I have been through.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
