She said it’s like you manipulated me by not telling me what it was, and got pissed. Then of course stuff got heat and we went back and forth until she finally left about a hour later.
She was right. Asking her to come over to pick up an emotionally charged item was manipulative on your part, and predictably resulted in a fight. That's why it's recommended here to drop the rope, no R talks, no fights. The attempts on your part hurt your detachment and the manipulation/fights only increase her resentment.
Originally Posted by Dink
While I was waiting I sent I message to our family group chat which includes my three kids and their spouses and me and my wife. My wife tried calling me but I didn't answer, then she tried calling me 5 times over the next 2 hours and sent me three text telling me to please call her. I never did but I did keep them all updated thru the group chat.
Time to set up a group chat for you and your kids, without W. My guess is part of you wanted your W to know there was an issue and then by not answering you were punishing her. She's divorcing you and living with OM. Just leave her out of your family's business going forward.
Originally Posted by Dink
Yesterdays ordeal with my sister scared the [censored] out of me as I thought she was having a stroke, and that is what killed my brother at age 50.
Sorry about your sister. That must have been scary. Hope she's alright.
Originally Posted by Dink
This past week with her grandma, and with my son being taken to the ER with 103.3 temps On Friday, and then yesterday when my sister collapsed and my house and taking her to the hospital where my wife’s grandma is at has just been a lot
It is a lot. Hang in there.
Originally Posted by Dink
but still no excuse with not following the rules that you all have been trying to get me to consistently do.
Why do we fall? So we can learn to pick ourselves up.
You made a mistake. You won't be the first or last here to do so. Do better going forward. You'll get through this.
Me:39 Ex-W:37 M:7 T: 9 S:6 D:3 BD/IHS/Confirm EA/PA: Feb '20 OM1 affair ends: May '20 W/OM2 & moves out: June-July '20 W files for D: Jul20 OM2 confirmed: 9/2020 Divorced: May '21