Everything H has said now makes sense to me..."you will never be able to forgive me"...
Of course that is him. H cannot forgive himself. And he therefore projects it upon you as well.
You are free and able to do as you please. You can do the inner work and find peace and forgiveness. H cannot tell you what you will never be able to do.
Just making that clear. Words have a way of being heard by our minds. And our mind turns words and thoughts into reality. Be accurate when listening, realizing where and who it is coming from. Be accurate when you are speaking to others; and most importantly while speaking to yourself.
Originally Posted by Stella20
I know that this has nothing to do with me or the person I am. I am a sweet, loving, caring women.. I have a big heart and I love big. This will scar me for the rest of my life.. not sure how it can't.. Thanks D, I am a good person, I will not change who I am because of what he is.
Good for you!
Make your changes for you.
Originally Posted by Stella20
I don't know what the future holds for me. Just day by day for now...
That’s good. No need to make major life decisions right now. And you are not really in a good place for those kind of life altering choices at the moment. Day by day is fine.
Discover your beliefs. Strengthen those values that serve you. Craft convictions you aspire to. And discard or alter beliefs that do not serve you. Organize that. Discover that. Living your beliefs brings peace.
No small task. In truth, that kind of never ends. Life’s journey I suppose. Of course, life is about the journey not the destination. The present moment. How we walk the path.
Originally Posted by Stella20
I got my name off of the credit cards today and Tuesday I am going to get my own phone plain and figure out the cable.. those are the last 2 things I need to do now. H sent some make shift spreadsheet for what he owes me and already transfered money to my account.. I sent it to my L did not even respond. His calculations make no sense....so the L's can handle that..
Good job.
Yes, letting the lawyer handle it. Nicely done.
You are doing very well walking the business side of things as well as the emotional side of things.
Hoping you have a wonderful day.
D
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
In truth, that kind of never ends. Life’s journey I suppose. Of course, life is about the journey not the destination. The present moment. How we walk the path.
