NEXT!

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My mindset was awful and I was generally set up to fail with that mindset. I was like angry at men and that’s not good. I decided to drop that. I’m just going to eliminate the bad stuff the way I can up front. I’m going in as all me and where the chips may fall with that one, they fall.

Good approach going all in as you, and glad to see the mindset change...us men aren't all bad!

I do imagine if I swiped right on every male, I would match 85% of the time. I also think guys just swipe right on everyone THEN they weed out, where as I think women weed out before swiping.

I can only speak for myself, but I've swiped left on probably 80-90% of profiles, so I've done a good bit of wedding out. Perhaps women are even more discerning. I don't see the point in swiping right on everyone when I'm clearly not interested but maybe some men do.

I know the standard should be has own home and sees kids regularly. As you know, my area is like 500k for a fixer upper these days in a decent neighborhood and a 3 bedroom rental above 2k. It will make you house poor like me on one income and a child. So I try not to be too judgemental.

Fair enough.

There are a lot who lost a lot in a divorce and it doesn’t make any sense to become house poor and in t when your parents let you live in their big house for free . I get it. But it doesn’t work too well for dating.

I bet!

I learned some more about this guy today. Divorced since 2013. He has full custody of his daughter for the last 3 years.

Not newly divorced and full custody of his child. Two green flags.

He just keeps becoming a better match. I hope we get to meet soon. I enjoy chatting with him alot and I haven’t enjoyed chatting with anyone in forever.

Good luck! Hope it clicks in person as it seems to be over the phone.