I decided to go back on bumble. It’s been over 6 months since I deleted my whole profile. About 5 since I deleted tinder. All I had was hinge where I very rarely get matches because There are so many upgrades you have to pay for to become visible. I probably checked it out once a week.
Anyways, I told myself the right swipes had to be someone I was attracted to, not be potentially attracted to physically. The good thing is, while I have a “type” that I am really physically attracted to, I have a wide range of physical attraction. They don’t have to fit certain attributes. I also made sure they were within a reasonable distance. 19 miles away in NYC, but I won’t match with anyone there. I swiped right on only what I was compatible with. Doesn’t want more kids, some similar hobbies, and again, personal Preference, k don’t swipe right on Christian conservative. I would date someone who was possibly, but not someone who needs to point that out in a profile.
I have gotten a lot of matches. I matched with 90 percent of my right swipes which is good. Started a few convos. They have been decent so far. One guy and I moved to text and wow. He hasn’t been inappropriate at all. Our convo just flows, he is so easy to talk to. I feel like I am being my authentic self. All the way. I don’t feel any need to filter or catch my words or wonder if they are right. Physically, he does fall into my top preferences of what I am attracted to. And. We also have the same birthday. I am 9 years younger though, lol. He owns his own home, has a good job in a union. 15 year old daughter. I laughed and smiled so much while texting. And I understand the difference from when I was talking with the other guy. For topics that have a lot of discussion we keep saying “when we meet that we will talk about them, but don’t have a date set yet. Hopefully soon, but I’m gone next weekend for a wedding. He’s on the farther end of my radius, but works my way often. I do realize I’m very attracted to a manly man. Blue color tradesmen. Drives me crazy.
Now for my coworkers son. We have been doing some light texting as well. He’s nice, our convo has been good. Am I that attracted? No. But I have to meet him. He does have great parents, so there is that. I do want to meet him.
I think this is the problem with talking to multiple men at the same time. You definitely end up connecting with one more, then it’s hard to connect with the other.
I guess I’m back in the dating game. I am a little more comfortable. Lots of profiles that mention how they aren’t vanilla and “kink a plus” but I just swipe past them. Actually, I made fun of them in my own profile. I mean, that’s fine and all, but when it’s in your introduction, I see where it is on the priority list. And those who don’t have it on their profiles , haven’t broken it out. Wheeeww. I might be more optimistic this time, but I’m sure as heck very cautious.
Maybe the thousandth time is the charms, lol
By the way, listen to the deeper dating podcast. It’s great.
