my L is saying that all this crazy rush is because she wants to get married and/or pregnant.
She only knew this guy for less then a month tops before D me came up.
I have not read your thread in detail so I may lack specific context, but wanted to provide some clarification on this.
WAS take a lot of time thinking through their actions. When they are thinking through things, they often fake their actions and things seem good in the marriage. When they let the LBS know they want out of the marriage, they have thought through their decision and have complete confidence in what they are doing. They want to move full speed ahead on their new lives, which in turn means they want to rush closing the lid on their marriage. She may indeed be pregnant or want to get married, but I have a feeling the reason for the rush is the excitement she perceives in her new life in general i.e. a life without you.
Very well said, I wonder has anyone here turned this around?
When you ask 'has anyone turned this around', you assume that the LBS controls the situation to turn it around. The reality is that the LBS only controls their part, as Steve said above. Turning the situation around requires the WAS to turn their lives around first, which is not in the control of the LBS. What the LBS can do is become a better person and an attractive partner in their next potential relationship - whether it is a new partner or the WAS when they eventually turn their life around.
